Two Types of Girls You’ll Meet After College

With the rise of Threads, I often see these girls in my feed. Sometimes I even follow them for a while to confirm my observations.

A year ago, I stopped maintaining offline friendships with girls. I became deeply focused on building my brand and studying, and we simply grew too different. I haven’t made new close friends since — and honestly, I no longer have the emotional capacity to constantly listen to someone else’s heavy life situations.

When complaints and problems pile up, it becomes exhausting. If you have strong empathy, you’ll start comparing their struggles to your own life — or fearing that similar situations may happen to you. I noticed something important: the less I consume bloggers’ content, the more emotionally stable and comfortable I feel.

Why Friendships Change After School and College

While you’re in school or college, it’s hard to notice these patterns. You’re open, more united, still partly children. People speak freely, without fear of rejection or abandonment.

But adulthood changes everything.

After graduation, you’ll begin to recognize two common female archetypes. Who you choose to stay close to is up to you.


Type 1: The Relationship-Centered Girl

She is deeply dependent on her boyfriend’s opinion. Her partner is her entire world. She can talk for hours about him — what he does, what he says — often criticizing him, yet never openly discussing her real emotional needs or inner state with him.

Her mood and productivity depend entirely on him.

If her partner financially supports her, she feels secure and presents herself as thriving — her hobby is “growing,” her sales are increasing, she appears successful. In reality, many core life burdens are handled by him: household expenses, rent or mortgage, even childcare.

Her primary responsibility becomes looking attractive for him.

She evaluates other women not through friendship or personality, but through the status of their partners. She chooses connections that are safe, strategic, and socially выгодные.

This type builds identity around romantic stability and financial security.


Type 2: The Hyper-Independent Girl

She carries everything on her own.

She doesn’t fully trust men and rarely believes her partner can achieve significant success. She may quickly decide to break up at the first sign of instability. Depending on a man feels unsafe to her — and he usually senses that.

Her life revolves around career growth, management skills, self-development, therapy, and financial planning. In many cases, all expenses fall on her shoulders.

She may be a single mother — or simply prefer adopting a cat over emotional risk.

She often shows solidarity and empathy toward women who live similarly independent lives.

This type builds identity around control, autonomy, and self-sufficiency.


Which Type Are You?

Do you recognize yourself in one of these female personality types after college?
 Or do you feel like you don’t belong to either category?

Understanding these patterns can help you reflect on relationships, independence, career priorities, and emotional boundaries.

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Because real life may divide us into “types”… but stories allow us to explore something deeper.